People never appreciate what they have until it's gone

Whenever a relationship or opportunity comes to an end, there is always difficult times of mourning and sad feelings associated with it. Respect that. Remember that every end entails a beginning of something new. Everything that should eventually end – ends, and you must be happy with it. Moreover, every time it happens you probably realize this fact at heart. But what can actually change your life is your ability to take time to invest in your future instead of dwelling on the past.

Signs that you are ready for a new relationship

▫️ You no longer need to talk about the former. Immediately after a breakup, many people get hung up on former partners, scroll through the stories associated with them in their heads, looking for explanations and those to blame. If this monologue is still in your head, you need more time. You don't have a goal to make your ex jealous. If all you want is to hurt your ex with a fast-paced new relationship, you're doing it wrong. You don't get upset when you see another's happiness. For those who have gone through a breakup, it can be difficult to accept that their significant other can be happy without them. If pictures of your ex on social media upset you, you're not ready for a new relationship.

Appreciate a man who...

▫️Faithful to you. Who is not looking for an opportunity to "compare" you with someone else, because for him you are already the best. ▫️A man who is able to understand and solve your problems, and not create new ones. Appreciate a man who is ready to make certain concessions and compromises for the sake of you and your relationship. Appreciate a man who knows how to appreciate and be grateful for everything you do for him. ▫️Remember that a dream man is not only "loves and does not change", but also makes life happy..

What kind of man do you need?

Of course, I cannot give a clear answer to this question, because everything here is purely individual. However, I want to let you know that before starting a relationship, it is very important to realize your desires. Analyze all the relationships and all the problems that were present in the past. Remember your desires that you dreamed about while being with a man. What was missing in it? What qualities did you like about him? However, it is important not to create an ideal image in your head - this simply does not happen. You just need to put together in your head a few qualities in men that you need in a new relationship.

Talk to the mirror

As strange as it may sound, you need to learn to talk to your own reflection in the mirror. And not just talk, but convince it that you are the best, the most gifted, the most capable, and the most confident. This idea may seem ludicrous. Ignore this feeling and get down to practice. Convince yourself of your own strength and worthiness. Doing this exercise regularly will surely yield results.

"Never ask for help, that's how you show your weakness"

If you are a human being and not a robot, it's okay that sometimes you can't cope with something. In such a situation, it is normal to ask for help and accept help, especially, if the overall success depends on your actions. For example, if you fail to meet a deadline and it hurts a team project, it's better to involve your colleagues than to let everyone down.

How to take the initiative

It can come from anyone, the main thing is that it is properly packaged. For example, in the form of questions: "Don't you think it's worth thinking about this?" "What do you think of this idea?" “And what do you think, how to do it?” “I have an idea and your opinion is important to me” Women are naturally more proactive than men. But in a partner family, a woman usually has enough wisdom to make the initiative look unobtrusive.

Casino effect in relationships

The casino effect is when a person spends his resources, but there is no result. But he still continues to throw a lot of energy into it. Someone wants to be married for a long time, but this does not happen. Someone is trying to fall in love with a cold partner. What to do if you understand that you are subject to this effect? You need to realize that if a person really takes you seriously and is ready to take some steps, then he will take these steps. And he would have gone forward a long time ago.

Your colleagues are not your friends

HR managers tell us that their company has a friendly environment, and that teamwork and honesty are appreciated. So you get the impression that everyone is your best friend. Don't believe it. We all tend to compete with each other, and it would be just naive to pretend otherwise. There's nothing wrong with that. Just don't treat your coworkers like friends, don't expect too much from them. People actually work to get money for their job. It would be a mistake to think that they can sacrifice their salary for the sake of friendship. Base your relationship on a different model. Be friendly, have fun with your colleagues, but above all remain professional.

Learn to deal with your enemies

Everyone who has achieved something or strives for a meaningful goal has enemies. The best tools against them are equanimity, composure, composure, a sense of humor, ignoring and banning. Equanimity, composure, and calmness help avoid irritation when dealing with them. A sense of humor smooths communication, no matter personal or online (emoji are what you need 🙂) Crazy haters, if at all possible, should be banned immediately. If you can't ban them, ignore them. The easiest way to defeat the enemy is not to communicate with him or her. The less you know about him or her, the happier you are.

Make friends with deadlines

Deadlines can discipline, focus, and mobilize. As well as drive you into prostration, panic, and even paralysis. To avoid becoming a victim of a deadline, it's better: ▫️ not to try to meet very tight deadlines and take time to spare (you can say like, "I don't work well under deadlines. Please give me one more day"); ▫️ to plan everything and start doing things ahead of time without any distractions, keep focused; ▫️ to split the project into sprints; ▫️ and, of course, not to put everything off until the last days/hours.

Why doesn't he do anything for you?

Women have a special memory: where the keys go, she does not remember. But when and how her husband offended her and did not give her enough, he recalls in detail every quarrel. Where he is right, he will never hear. But where it's wrong, it's in the details! Why he is bad, what was missing, what else is needed, where he screwed up, what didn’t work out - everything flies into his brain. Such men get sad, burn out, they have failures at work, their libido drops, their escape from reality into gadgets and a bottle progresses. And such husbands need a mistress to save the marriage. They go to her in order to regain everything that their spouse bit off at home.

Why work on relationships?

Why bother with the family? In addition to the fact that the family is a place where you can become very happy, it is also a tool for your growth. It is in the family that you can realize yourself in every sense. The family can be a source of pleasure, joy and intimacy, it helps and protects. But she is also a constant source of irritation, because we are forced to find a common language and build relationships with a partner. And no matter how much you love each other, there will always be a reason for discontent and conflict. And this is a testing ground for constant work on yourself, if you want it, of course.

Magic phrases that strengthen relationships

Positive reinforcements We often do not encourage loved ones, we are silent about love. Stop being shy, give compliments. Say thanks more often Thank you for a delicious dinner, a new dress, or just for the fact that the person is nearby. interest in a loved one Constantly ask how you are, what you dreamed about and so on. This will help you get closer.

Lack of attention from wife

I have said many times that I do not condone male infidelity. But, whatever the circumstances, two are always to blame for family discord. Your partner, just like you, wants to feel loved. But when he does not receive affection, attention, trips to the "left" happen. Alas, not all couples are able to resolve conflicts peacefully. Each of the spouses stands up for their own truth. For example, a woman does not want to make concessions, because she is already busy arranging her life and raising children. While the spouse does not seek to support his beloved, but only reproaches her for indifference. The end result is betrayal.

Stop comparing yourself to others

Neither in reality, nor on social media. On the Internet, everyone tries to create the appearance of an ideal life, which should not be trusted. There's absolutely no need to compare yourself to some illusive virtual image. Can't get rid of the feeling that everyone is better than you? Then do the following: instead of comparing yourself to people you're interested in, try to find out how they succeeded.

Be kinder to yourself

We make too heavy demands on ourselves and blame ourselves for faults we would forgive another person immediately. Don't do that. Stop putting yourself down, be kinder to yourself. Treat your own actions and thoughts with compassion and respect.

6 ways to hurt his male ego (on purpose or not)

1. Point out his physical defects. Even if he is not perfect and does not seek to change, he does not want to hear about his shortcomings. 2. Doubt his salary. They are offended when a woman boasts that she earns more than him. If you earn less, then he may be offended that he earns little. 3. Fix it in front of other people. Most men want to believe that they know everything better than anyone. 4. Talk about other men. Any compliment or words of encouragement addressed to another man hurt his ego. 5. Talk positively about your ex. Any compliment to the former is a blow to the ego of the current. 6. Show dissatisfaction with him in bed. If a woman is not happy, this is a big blow for him.

Gestures of a man when he likes a woman

• The body is turned towards the woman, his leg is put out in front of her - as a sign that he is taking a step towards the interlocutor. • A man watches his posture, straightens his shoulders, raises his chin. • The man is excited: straightens his tie, sleeves, rubs his palms, straightens his hair. • Spreads legs wide, means that he feels relaxed. • Looks into the eyes, holds the gaze and periodically switches it to the lips.

Ask Personal Questions

Use this trick if you need to get someone to like you immediately. It also works the other way around. Tell something personal about yourself to earn a person's trust. But don't spill your guts at once. Give it out gradually. Repeat your interlocutor's body language. If both repeat each other's movements and facial expressions, it means that the contact is established. That way you can even check how well the conversation is going. Try to sit a little differently and see if the person does the same.