How to gain the upper hand in an argument?

Very easy. Start accusing your opponent of something. "You just don't respect me!" "Why are you raising your voice?!" "You don't understand me!" The main thing I advise is to say phrases of this kind as calmly as possible. And the cherry on the cake is your beautiful French exit, that is, suddenly turn around and leave without saying goodbye after one of the phrases. And no, you will not look like a fool.

Daring.

Who of us hasn't fallen for such scams just to prove that he or she can? Everyone has been bait in this way, even me. However, even this manipulation can be carried out differently, including so that it is followed without even blinking an eye. "Look, I don't think you're up to this job, why don't you ask someone else?" In this case, it would be just a challenge. And how about proving yourself to others⁉️ So you can start practicing at home, and then you can catch bigger fish.

Watch the head position carefully!

If a person tilts or turns their head when asked a direct question, it most likely indicates that she or he is lying. I say "most likely" because it is not always a reliable indicator. However, more often than not, the head tilts back or turns to the side just before the question. But also don't forget to watch the facial expressions.

Leaning to expose the liar.

- Did you take my computer yesterday? - No, I didn't. And now let's ask the same question again, while leaning toward the opponent. And if you're sitting, it's more effective to stand up and ask the question while leaning over the interlocutor. Why does it work? Because it's psychological pressure and breaking social boundaries. This is how the brain under pressure begins to produce truth. So I advise you to try this method, you can start with children if you feel they are lying.

Guys, don't you forget to tease girls?

This is one of the most important elements of flirting! Of course, teasing and joking should not be rude and not malicious, but as it were ... Playing like with a cat. How? Noticing the awkwardness that the girl allows or pinning up some bright features. Just do it with love! And here it makes no sense to give specific examples. In addition, that banter should be individual (I explained why above). Templates still won't give you the most important "ingredient" for banter - a sense of humor! And I have already given you more than one recipe for nurturing this feeling, but in the context of banter there is one ideal option.

Note to the guys: find YOUR place!

Whether it's a coffee shop, a chocolate shop, a bar, a restaurant, a hookah bar... No matter! The main property is that you can come to this institution with a girl. What for? To create high significance in relation to you, and you, in turn, feel maximum confidence. After all, a nice hostess greets you at the entrance, the bartender asks how you are doing, and the waiters know what you prefer. This is an ideal situation for you to "grow up" in the eyes of a girl - that is, become more attractive. How to achieve this? Go to this place on your own or with a company for a few weeks. Of course, the more time spent there, the better the result. But even this period is enough not to shake over the menu and not be afraid to call the waiter.

If you are underestimated.

It means that: ⠀• They assert themselves at your expense. ⠀• Your value is difficult to endure and digest for someone's weak consciousness. ⠀• Someone doesn't want to change when they meet you.

4 types of men with whom there will be problems.

1. Infantile man with low self-esteem He will not take responsibility, does not seek to help, protect. He needs to be helped, looked after. 2. Counter-addicted (fearful of intimacy) emotionally distant, successful and attractive He is afraid to fall into the "love network", but that is why he wants to win. Relations with such a man are filled with constant fear: “Something is wrong again?”, “Am I really not trying hard for him?”. 3. Narcissistic and charismatic, overly self-loving He exaggerates his abilities and achievements, he is convinced that everyone around him is envious. The narcissist has poor control over his emotions, is impulsive, touchy. 4. Cynic, aggressor, sadist and psychopath At the beginning of the relationship, he is "white and fluffy". But there are "bells": ironic remarks, swing "I love - indifferent." Lies, uses the "gaslighting" technique.

Keeping personal boundaries breeds trust.

Even the happiest and most exemplary spouses need to move away from each other in time. Men want to go to football, women want to go shopping with their girlfriends. This makes it possible to refresh emotions, “reset”, so as not to finally get stuck in a routine. But it happens that women practice active intrusion into the personal space of their man. And this is a sign of emotional dependence! Freedom is equally important for both partners. When you do not leave your spouse alone, control his every step, he thinks that you do not trust him. Hence conflicts and forced separation

The best defense against manipulation.

Our brain has a kind of initial setup that protects us from manipulations, and this barrier keeps us from getting manipulated in some cases. However, there's a number of much more cunning people who try to hack all these mechanisms. Let's take marketing and sales departments, for example. Everything in a regular store is used against the customer. Narrow passages, loud music, all of that push the defense settings and turn off the controls. And the final blow comes from the salesperson who forces you to make a quick decision. I advise avoiding immediate and impulsive decisions. And the greatest defense against negativity propagated by media is media education.

Passive Aggression.

A very common manipulation among those who try to hide their true aggression but express it in a passive manner instead. It may look like sarcasm, but sarcasm does not imply humiliating others. "The dinner was really delicious, but I see there is no salt in this house." And sometimes, people using passive aggression, don't even notice obvious harm. So my advice would be either not to react to such things at all, or to respond in the same manner. "Salt is only for welcome guests in this house."

Destructive thoughts that make us unhappy.

"I don't deserve to be happy! No one will ever love me! I won't be able to achieve anything! I can't do anything!" These thoughts destroy aspirations and opportunities. Instead of taking active action, you wallow in sadness about something that hasn't even happened yet. This makes your thoughts come true. Negative thoughts always have roots, that is the situation in which they originated and which triggers them. The brain tries to hide painful memories from us, so we "forget" them. But they don't go away completely, they are stored in deeper levels and sometimes remind us of themselves in the form of automatic thoughts. Our memory stores everything: guilt, resentment, pain, shame, disappointment, etc. To work through these situations is to release the old emotions and free ourselves from their painful influence. That's what makes us happy - FREEDOM. Freedom from stereotypes, from other people's influence, from negative emotions. The freedom to be yourself and to enjoy the life you've always wanted.

How to behave correctly if a girl needs to be kept in good shape for some time?

I'm talking about situations when she is your “fallback option” and it seems that you don’t need to make close contact ... How to keep interest in it, but at the same time not go too far with your own? There is one great option for this task - funny pictures and videos. What should these pictures and videos be like? Yes, whatever you like - from cute kittens and memes on TV shows, ending with jokes on the actuality and funny (or interesting) pictures from life. Here you just need to feel out which of all this the girl likes more. However, one important point. You can’t pull with such a “keep in good shape” - more often in it, after a few weeks, she will begin to lose interest. It happens faster, sometimes they fall in love unrequitedly for six months. This is also a subtle point.

You need to leave the pathetic man.

A man is an object of strength and protection, a manifestation of care and love, not pity. • You will not be able to feel like a fragile woman next to him. • All the problems you will face will have to be solved by yourself. • Your relationship will only bring fatigue and disappointment. Usually such men try to be close to those women who have an innate sense of "motherhood". But a man is not a child.

6 ways to hurt his male ego (on purpose or not).

1. Point out his physical defects. Even if he is not perfect and does not seek to change, he does not want to hear about his shortcomings. 2. Doubt his salary. They are offended when a woman boasts that she earns more than him. If you earn less, then he may be offended that he earns little. 3. Fix it in front of other people. Most men want to believe that they know everything better than anyone. 4. Talk about other men. Any compliment or words of encouragement addressed to another man hurt his ego. 5. Talk positively about your ex. Any compliment to the former is a blow to the ego of the current. 6. Show dissatisfaction with him in bed. If a woman is not happy, this is a big blow for him.

Listening to yourself - why it's SO important.

People with low self-perception often find themselves in abusive situations. They can play the role of both the aggressor and the victim. It is difficult to say which is more horrible, though: to do it to someone else or to do it to yourself. Self-violence is also violence, isn't it? The best way to prevent it is to pay attention to your vulnerability and powerlessness as markers of own limits.

Do you believe in fairy tales?

There's one that most people believe in. It is that if you are bad and hence behave badly, you will either be punished or, what's worse, rejected. Fear of being rejected and punished is usually activated when you need to assert your limits, defend yourself, prioritize your needs, set your expectations and attitudes. Why is it so scary? Because at this point you are looking at the situation through the eyes of a frightened child, not as an adult. Who can punish the adult? Who can abandon him? Can anyone abandon a self-sufficient person who knows how to take care of her or himself and take responsibility for her/his own life? How is it possible to punish someone who knows how to set boundaries? That's right, no way.

Are you right- or left-handed?

Did you know that when people lie they involuntarily begin to move their hands, flip, touch something, etc?. Except that a left-handed person forgets to control the right hand and a right-handed person forgets to control the left hand. There are also ambidextrous, but there aren't many of them, to be honest.

Women's mistakes in relationships.

A woman projects herself onto a man and vice versa I have written more than once about the fact that men and women see the world in completely different ways. You should not evaluate the behavior and actions of a partner from your "bell tower". A woman communicates with a man with hints She cannot directly say what she wants, and he perceives her attempts to harmonize relations as an attack. Communication not established. Partners have little in common, no common topics for conversation, no interesting communication, no reason to admire each other. As a result, one of the partners begins to get bored and looks for entertainment on the side.

Lack of attention from the wife.

I have said many times that I do not condone male infidelity. But, whatever the circumstances, two are always to blame for family discord. Your partner, just like you, wants to feel loved. But when he does not receive affection, attention, trips to the "left" happen. Alas, not all couples are able to resolve conflicts peacefully. Each of the spouses stands up for their own truth. For example, a woman does not want to make concessions, because she is already busy arranging her life and raising children. While the spouse does not seek to support his beloved, but only reproaches her for indifference. The end result is betrayal.