Consciousness and Subconsciousness: What Controls Our Lives.

Many people believe that they are in control of their own lives, consciously making decisions and consciously acting. It could be said that our conscious mind has a 5% stake in our life and our subconscious mind has a 95% one. Can you feel the difference? The power of the subconscious mind is immense! It controls and governs all the vital functions of the body, from blood circulation to breathing and digestion. The subconscious mind also records everything that has happened to a person. It registers every event of our life as well as all thoughts and feelings associated with it. Finally, it attracts all the events in your life, both positive and negative. By influencing the subconscious mind and getting rid of destructive behavior, we can completely change our reality!

How to find the best possible solution.

The obsessive desire not just to find the best, but THE ONLY POSSIBLE solution out of all possible ones is typical, as a rule, for perfectionists. Such people live in constant fear of making a mistake and are rarely happy with their choices. How to help yourself make the right choice? — Flip a coin. Sometimes it helps. — Write out the pros and cons in two columns. The choice will be obvious. — Make a choice with the understanding that you can always change your mind. — Keep in mind that there're no perfect solutions. And don't also forget that there are no permanent solutions. It is always possible to make the next decision, taking into account new circumstances.

Bad guys.

Bad boys are so attractive to girls because they are the alpha males in the human world. The bad guy is cocky, brave, ready for actions that other guys don’t even think about, free, with his own opinion and always rebellious. But it is precisely those qualities that attract you so much that will not allow you to build a long and lasting relationship with him.

You know how it is.

You once hurt a man, but he endured. He did two, three or four, forgot here, scored there, but he endures everything and stays by his side. You may think that this will always be the case. That you can do anything. That the person next to you is simply able to endure everything. But it's not. Perhaps this person will endure a lot more, will cope with this pain more than once in order to be with you. But one day he will leave. Quietly, silently and forever. Then you will understand that you have lost something very precious in your life, but you will not be able to return it. Never...

Life is Beautiful.

Life is wonderful when you realize that you have a person who gives you his time, regardless of work, fatigue and nerves. The one who can turn an ordinary evening into a holiday. The one who can give those necessary emotions and feelings, even if at the moment there are no those forces for it.

"How to develop composure?"

Focus on yourself. Maybe this will seem wrong to someone, but in our situation we will have to show not the best qualities. One of them is selfishness. It must be taken as a principle that you owe nothing to anyone. This is completely your life and you decide what, how and when to do it. There are basic values - love, work, family and friends, and the rest - problems, circumstances, ill-wishers, emotions - just garbage, it needs to be thrown away. This will allow you to take life into your own hands and begin to manage it yourself.

Why reading the news is a waste of time.

Reading the news only creates the illusion of useful activity. In fact, it is absolutely useless, and sometimes harmful. Why it is worth deleting a news application from a smartphone, and a news site bookmark from a browser, read below. 1. Really important news you won't miss. 2. News badly affects the brain and spoils the mood. 3. You do not replenish knowledge - you are wasting time.

How to make life easier?

Life is so much easier when we recognize the IMPORTANCE of others and respect their choices. Everyone has their own way, and if you get in the way of others by providing help when you're not asked, you won't be even heard. Everyone needs to go her or his own way. Being empathetic and supportive is a great STRENGTH. That is to share your point of view without imposing it and to respect the person to whom you are speaking. The rest is up to the other.

A dream.

Well, really, why is it we dream, when in the crazy rhythm of life everything is clear for years ahead? A person needs a dream in order to maintain internal resources for renewal, promotion and striving for new beginnings. ⁣⁣⠀ A person without a dream gives up, he loses interest in life and does not develop as a person.⁣⁣° Often, this indicates the presence of a traumatic event in the person's past. A person has stopped dreaming so as not to be disappointed anymore and lives his life out of contact with himself. It is extremely important to find yourself, revive your feelings, get out of the gray world, fill your life with bright colors and start DREAMING. After all, the one who does not dream — does not know where to go or why, and lives their mundane life without purpose and joy.

Criticizing yourself.

It so happens that an inner voice constantly shouts to you: "you won't succeed," "you're clumsy," "look at yourself." What should you do about it? Resist! Do not agree immediately. Find facts and arguments to the contrary. Don't be lazy, write down everything you hear. You can describe this internal conflict in the form of a dialogue. Find two or three counterarguments for each remark. You should not take advantage of this. In a critical situation, it helps a lot in making the right decision.

Where to find complete recovery?

If someone hurts you, it can give rise to a lot of inner anger and even hatred. It's normal, and it's important to let yourself accept all these emotions, to express them in a healthy manner. That will help you feel your power and get halfway through your recovery process. However, many people prefer having that milestone of resentment and hatred round their neck. This goes on for ages. Complete recovery is freedom not only from pain, but also from hatred and the desire to blame. Complete recovery gets rid of your willingness to confront your abuser as well. Just smile, forgive, and wish good luck in his path.

Doesn't anxiety make life unbearable?

Anxiety makes a person a VICTIM. Life and the world around become unsafe. More often than not, anxiety exists for a very long time without a person noticing it. Anxiety becomes noticeable when stressful situations accumulate. While stress is suppressed, anxiety grows. People tend to come to therapy with excessive anxiety, which is already impossible to tolerate. It often ruins our sleep, makes us less productive, destroys our relationships, and kills happiness. What's to be done? Firstly, sort yourself out. Observe carefully. When does anxiety appear? How stable is it? Figure out whether it comes after some events or it's chronic. Find the cause, talk it out loud, and start working through a particular fear.

Don't forget to say thank you.

From ancient times there is a cosmic law: if a person is not grateful for the given help or knowledge, the energy of gratitude will still be taken away from him in one way or another. The unthankful person disrupts the balance of energies, so it seeks restoration at the soonest opportunity. ⠀ Just as a lake, from which water has been taken for irrigation, takes water from other places to restore its level, and it does not matter whether such water comes in a downpour or from nearby wells. ⠀ So always be thankful.

How to save a marriage?

1. Start with yourself. Don't try to change your partner. It's impossible. Honestly and calmly analyze: what are you doing wrong? For example: you control every step of your husband, you criticize him. 2. Learn constructive dialogue. Replace reproaches with "I-statements". Not “You didn’t throw out the trash again, how many times should I remind you!”, But “I get upset when house cleaning agreements are violated.” 3. Take an interest in his affairs. Let's be honest: do you know how your spouse lives? What does he dream about, what career plans does he make, how does he imagine the perfect day off? Talk to each other, share experiences and spiritual secrets. It builds intimacy and builds trust.

How to receive gifts?

Remember how mistresses behave who are given apartments / cars: - flirt - Give intimacy - a passionate night of love - Released to freedom - Receive gifts! What do most wives do? Correctly! They do not trust and constantly control. Instead of “I’m waiting for you, my love,” they shout into the phone: “Hello, where are you?” They forget about flirting, about the female condition, they do not know how to enjoy life and give this joy to their man. Men are naturally unemotional! They need recharging with positive emotions from women. They are charged and delighted, looking at our satisfied eyes, get high on how we enjoy. They are attracted to women who know how to have fun! From themselves, from their man, they motivate him to succeed, "blow his wings." They want to be close to such a woman and throw everything at her feet!

Habit tracker

Celebrate your desired habits daily to bring them to automaticity. In a month, you will be able to track the progress of working with the habit, understand how comfortable the mode you have chosen and understand whether this habit suits you or not.

Our internal resources.

People have huge internal resources, but rarely use them. With the help of meditation, you can calm down without pills. If you listen to your own intuition, you can avoid danger and even death. If a person does not know what hidden talents he has, you need to remember what he admires most in other people. Similar skills can be developed in yourself.

Me and my shadow...

All the things we don't want to be, don't want to have, don't want to live with and don't want to allow into our own lives form our SHADOW. Denial can't make your shadow go away, it just puts it out of sight. ⠀ The word "no/rejection" pushes the unwanted away from us but it cannot eliminate it. From then on, the rejected lives in the shadow of our minds. ⠀ Remember: Little children firmly believe that if you close your eyes, you can become invisible. In the same way, we believe that it is possible to free ourselves from half of our "kind of not my qualities" without noticing them in ourselves.

Practice to develop your uniqueness.

Each of us is unique, the main thing is to discern your own characteristics. Take a pen and a piece of paper and write down what you think makes you different from others. What is it about you that interests people? Write about your personality and appearance. What do you like to do, what are your interests, what can you do better than others. Our experiences are also unique. Describe your most memorable experiences. What books or movies inspire you? How have your views on life, on politics, on people, on society, on business, on money, on yourself been formed? Who and what influenced them? This exercise makes you feel real.

What causes emotional burnout.

This is a long process caused by an imbalance between the expenditure of energy and its normal recovery. To regain your former energy, you need to figure out what exactly is consuming your strength in vain. The list can be long, but it's worth highlighting a few: ▫️any chronic overload; ▫️working for the sake of work; ▫️worries about the past, worries about the future; ▫️toxic environment; ▫️empty chatter, meaningless get-togethers; ▫️lack of communication with nature and yourself; ▫️routine life, lack of any significant events What should you do? Minimize the impact of all of the above on your life as much as possible.