This method is great for the following situations:

1. Organization of the weekend. 2. Break from time management. Tips: If one day you decide to use "spontaneous planning", try to start by remembering: do you have any mandatory tasks today? Don't forget about "thinking traps". Starting the next lesson, ask yourself: is it really important? If a lot of things suddenly hit you, it's better to return to more traditional time management at least for a while.

Spontaneous actions.

Spontaneous activities are the world's most popular way of organizing your day. Its essence is not to plan anything in advance, but simply act according to the circumstances. When choosing what to do now, a person is not guided by long-term goals, but simply reacts to some external and internal “irritants”. We do not rely on long-term plans, and without them it is very difficult to improve our lives. As a result, the effect of "squirrels in the wheel" appears.

What masculine qualities are useful for women to have?

It's easier to deal with. Most women take everything seriously. However, if some things are perceived more easily and not so categorically, then life will become easier and there will be a smile on your face more often. Hints are not needed. Oh, women love to give hints and expect men to understand them. No, they won't understand! Therefore, speak directly to men about what you think or what you want. Problems out of the blue. No need to make a molehill out of a molehill every time and every day. Most relationship problems happen precisely because women exaggerate the extent of the problem.

Listen to Yourself

When we are faced with the question of making a decision, we often have the answer in our head immediately - version number one, which miraculously you already know. This is the so-called inner voice that unconsciously awakens at the moment the dilemma arises. Unfortunately, most of us are accustomed to listening to this voice. Perhaps trusting your intuition once got you into trouble, but now you've grown up, gained judgement, started weighing your arguments... In any case, by neglecting your intuition, you're giving up an important source of information. For the sake of a complete decision-making toolkit, bring your inner voice back to the table, because a good life is the result of a series of good decisions.

Partner Support.

All of us have to face different circumstances in life, whether it's health problems or job loss. It is precisely at these times that your partner needs support and encouragement, even though these events can be a source of tremendous stress for you as well. You don't need to portray an unfading optimism and hide your worries. The most important thing is to be there for you and for your partner to feel that together you can overcome these difficulties. Your confidence and support will not only reduce your partner's worries, but most likely will help him to mobilize all his resources to overcome the problem situation.

Anger, resentment, healing.

When you realize that your parents were wrong in your childhood, you become angry and resentful. Anger tells you that you disagree. Resentment tells you that you expect a different attitude. And as the first stage of healing, anger and resentment are very important. They show a discrepancy between what you were given and what you needed. But if the healing goes on, you notice that even though you are an adult, you continue to behave as if someone is not treating you right. Replay the old pattern yourself. Breaking this pattern involves letting go of anger and resentment. The disappearance of anger and resentment does not mean that your parents have stopped misbehaving. It means that you yourself have stopped behaving toward yourself the way your parents once did.

A mature person is like a ripe fruit.

For example, a pear. The pear is not perfect, but it has no desire to become something else. It doesn't try to turn from a pear into a peach with the help of personal growth training. It doesn't pretend to be a banana, who is just out of shape today. Not torturing herself with newfangled diets to the size of a cherry. It doesn't tell tall tales about how she looked like a little tangerine as a child. It accepts herself as a pear. Somewhere with a rottenness, somewhere with a tough skin, and somewhere with an appetizing barrel. And certainly a characteristic pear shape. So is a mature man. He's not perfect. He has already fought with his nature, despaired, disappointed, humbled himself, accepted, studied and started to use that which is inherent in him. That is why it looks harmonious in all its manifestations. And that’s not only the result of experience, but also of choice.

Suggest a solution.

Blaming, shifting responsibility, lecturing - approximately in this vein, women make claims against a man. How to present your dissatisfaction? If you declare a problem, be ready to find a compromise, offer your vision of the situation. For example: “Honey, I understand that you are busy with work right now. And I'm proud of your success. But rest is also very important. I suggest you do the following. Let's make sure to find two Saturdays of the month in order to go out into the world, to devote time to each other. What do you think about it?". Agree, such a speech is much more effective, instead of the phrase “Again I’m alone all day!”

How to behave with a man who always argues?

To begin with, it is better not to mess with such a man at all. But if you still agree to such a relationship, then the best solution is to ignore the argument. Everything is arranged simply: you are not involved, but he is not interested. Thus, you cease to be an opponent who needs to prove something. Remember: the more involvement, the more motives for the dispute.

How to let go of the past

Don't impose standards on yourself. It's a trap! There is such a thing as a "standard of expectations. Most people absolutely know that any standard situation must have its standard development. And, accordingly, most traumas and hurt feelings from the past are unfulfilled expectations. For example, a woman gets married because she expects her husband to provide for her, her husband earns pennies and does not move to earn more, the woman gets divorced and gets angry at the whole world, thinking all men are mean and lazy. The divorce took place many years ago, and if it were not for her perpetually angry and depressed state of mind, the young energetic woman would have simply found herself another man from among those who are "grounded" to earn, and does not consider it a feat. However, all of her energy is spent regretting the past and the "best years of her life" that are irrevocably gone.

Happiness is leisurely

Rapid pace of city life and lack of time are the main enemies of happiness. Life speeds up, as if transferring us into the cabin of a fast car, where our emotions and feelings begin to flash like lights behind the window. We don't have time to feel anything. Our lives blur and we sink into a strange space of "emotionlessness." So just take your time, let your feelings slowly mature and your happiness will blossom.

It's harder to be happy than miserable.⠀

Mutual love and happiness is a much more difficult experience than unhappiness and unrequited love. Happiness can be accompanied by anxiety, fear of loss, and other complicated feelings, while grief is a clear one-way road. Survive, drink, rethink, and get out. And happiness is the more difficult task of life. Or even, let's say, a philosophical category. Being here and now, without the possibility of getting caught up in expectations.

Objectification of anxiety.

Statistically, forty percent of people on earth have an elevated background of anxiety for various reasons. They wake up in the morning and are already anxious. They worry about work, about children, about money, about the future... And especially strongly such people are so anxious when they cannot find objective reasons for this very anxiety and set in motion their rich imagination. What if it is a chronic disease? What if the radiologist (surgeon, therapist, any other doctor) missed something important on the picture? For example, like now, in the world crisis, or in the plight of polar bears in the conditions of global warming... A person who has finally identified his anxiety becomes much easier. He knows what is happening, he is in control, he takes action, he is afraid, but he still feels better, because an external object has been found.

Dependent relationships.

Girls, I want to ask you one question: do you feel joy, love in a relationship, or do you feel bad next to this man, but there is no strength to break the connection? After all, when love causes more pain than pleasure, then you may be in a dependent relationship. Here are a few signs: • because of the fear of losing him, you endure rudeness, betrayal, coldness • the thought of ending a relationship or separation causes panic • you broke up with your loved one, but you can't cope with the feeling of a huge loss and you don't understand how to live on without him, life has lost its meaning If you recognize your relationship, then this is an alarming bell. The result of such a union can be completely killed self-esteem, depression, disappointment in oneself.

3 failed ways to interest a man.

What NOT to do under any circumstances: ▫️Pretend to be the woman of his dreams. After all, even if you mislead him, it will either open up very soon, or you will have to adapt to the image that you painted for him. ▫️Wait until he recognizes love in you and matures to start a serious relationship with you, or at least in bed. ▫️Manipulations: I'll fly and get it, I'll take it to bed and impress, I'll shoot my rivals and emerge victorious. If you impose yourself on a man who is not interested in you: you love him more than yourself.

About the feeling of being used.

It happens that the feeling of being used occurs when a person wanted to use a partner or a situation, but could not. For example, a woman who consents to sex, not out of a clear sexual desire but in the hope of a relationship, may feel used if she is not offered that relationship. Whereas a woman who consented to sex out of a clear sexual desire may feel satisfied, unsatisfied, angry, tired, embarrassed, sad, but in no way used. Because her actions coincided with her goals. They may have been slightly more or slightly less successful, but they coincided. During use and manipulation, the actions do not coincide with the goals. And then only chance will tell who will succeed in reaching that hidden goal and who will not.

Weekends, holidays and pauses put everything in its place.

Someone who loves you knows you in detail and agrees with all your systemic mistakes. And has long laughed at the way you repeat yourself, get angry, apologize, and cheat yourself again. Someone who wants to get to know you better clarifies and asks questions. Many questions. About tea, or shoelaces, or how wide you can open the window at night, or how you should be loved. Someone who sees a future together invests time and effort now. And if it's good now, you have to be around longer to have enough for the hard times that sometimes happen.

About illusion and reality

Some dreams are given to man not to fulfill them, but to become disillusioned with himself and his fantasies, and to start living in the real world now. A person becomes definitively mature when he realizes that this well-being does not depend on the efforts or opinions of others. And when he realizes that there is nothing wrong with the world. The only question is how to look at it and what kind of contact to make. People are most visible in the way they conceal something.

If you're lucky, you'll be alone.

All alone, when no one is around and you have to look for support on the ground and on yourself. If you're lucky and it's at the right time, life will hit you to crack you like a nut and get the kernel. If you're lucky and it's the right time, it will hurt you. So painful that the pain will almost make you die and then help you reborn from the inside out. If you're lucky, you will cry. And nothing can hold back those tears. And release will come through them, and then - real life.

Is it possible to keep a man with children?

Women naively believe that as soon as the first child is born in a young family, you can relax and stop working on relationships. After all, the baby is so cute, and dad is so happy. Where will he go now - it is necessary to educate the heir. The fact is that men and women have different attitudes to the appearance of children. And if the husband has no feelings for his wife, then the little fidgets will become only a weapon for manipulation.