Sensitive people - who are they?

SENSITIVE people are biologically predisposed. We are all born with completely different perceptions of the world. Some are more sensitive, some are like a rock, and some are somewhere in between. If two children, with different sensitivities, grow up in equally unbearable conditions, the sensitive one may develop a mental disorder, while the other will be left with only unpleasant memories. That’s why you can't compare people who have gone through even similar experiences, one could be completely unaffected by the experience, while the other could completely ruin his life.

What are personal boundaries?

It is our inherent temperament, well-being, mood, established attitudes, beliefs, values. Our choices, decisions, desires and needs. Our self-esteem, virtues, talents, abilities. Our feelings, feelings, thoughts, thoughts, dreams. What does it mean to guard those boundaries? If you are forced to act in a way that is uncharacteristic of you, disagree and point it out. For example, if an introvert is offered a rest in a noisy company, not only will he not rest, but he will overstrain himself and will not be ready for further work. And what does it mean to violate the boundaries of the other? For example, to require a hyperactive child to sit still for forty minutes. Or rushing a slow child, and even punishing him for his sluggishness.

What to do if you're full of it?

If you restrain yourself, you will accumulate emotions, sooner or later you will explode. If a person for a long time accumulates a small irritation, creating gradually, but steadily internal tension - sooner or later, at the slightest puncture, because of a trifle and nothing, discontent explodes with the force of a snow avalanche. Like other emotions, discontent cannot be accumulated, it must be expressed, but do it competently.

Micro breaks at work save you from burnout.

Romanian scientists conducted a meta-analysis of 22 studies of the last 30 years and came to the conclusion that microbreaks no longer than ten minutes in length save from emotional burnout at work.

Optimists rule the world.

And indeed it is! It has been proven that people who think positively are more likely to create situations with a positive outcome. Firstly, positive people are attracted to positive people, creating in a sense a positive space around them. Secondly, when a person is negatively minded, his brain starts to work worse, and therefore success is more difficult.

If a man really needs you, he won't leave you alone.

He will write several times a day and be interested in how you are and what is wrong with you, call, come, and not play the mysterious game of "who will silence whom." Such a man will find time for you even in the busiest schedule, and will not be obscured by his busyness. He will remind you of himself at every opportunity, because men have no concept of obsession, but persistence is in use when he really wants to hear, see or just hug you. If a man really needs you, you don’t have to remind him of yourself and beg for crumbs of attention. He is always ready to help and be there. Otherwise, he is not very interested in you ...

Method 10 minutes.

Often we have enough time for many things, self-development especially suffers from this. But instead of completely giving up, for example, from classes, exercise at least 10 minutes daily. The main thing is to find a simplified version, the effect will be no less, but nevertheless, it will still be, and this is definitely better than nothing.

Practice for relieving tension ⠀

Facial exercise:⠀ - mask of surprise: raise your eyebrows high; - anger mask: furrow your eyebrows; - kiss mask: close your lips as if to kiss; - mask of laughter: a "Pinocchio" smile; - discontent mask: press your lips together, press your chin and lower the corners of your mouth; squeeze hard and open your eyes; tense and relax your nose.⠀ Now sit for a few minutes, enjoy the peace. When you feel like you are slowly floating, you are completely relaxed.

4D Method

The method is designed to help people who, at the sight of their list of tasks, are horrified and do not know how to approach all the accumulated items. You need to remember only four words with the letter D, and then you will not give up in front of mountains of cases. Here they are: Do - if you are assigned a task, it is best to complete it now and immediately cross it off the list. Delegate - when you cannot or do not have time to do something, but you have a relatively free assistant, transfer the task to him. Delete - some things are not so important. Discard them by permanently removing them from the list of tasks. If they try to impose extra responsibilities on you, learn to say “no” politely. Delay (postpone) - when the task is too voluminous or does not require immediate execution, it can be postponed. But you must definitely set clear deadlines for it. Pick a task, perform one 4D action on it, and then move on to the next.

Limit the flow of information.

Of course, you should be aware of current events, but this is not a reason to specifically look for news that makes your hands go cold. We need to find a balance in the consumption of information. Identify a few safe and trusted news sources for yourself, avoid rumors and gossip, do not watch videos from the scene, etc.

Emotional swings in relationships.

Imagine a situation: a guy and a girl met, started talking. After some time, they began to have romantic feelings for each other: the guy confessed to the girl in sympathy, she reciprocated. And then, as in the best romantic film: flowers, dates. But suddenly a surprise happens: the young man disappears, does not answer phone calls, or his “I love you!” changes to "I hate you!" What does a girl do in such a situation? She begins to look for the reason in herself, to feel guilty and remember with admiration how good he was. Her feelings become even stronger, and then the following happens: the young man returns, again confesses his love and says that he missed her very much. Guess what happens after a while? That's right, he disappears again. A similar pattern of behavior in relationships between a man and a woman, when intimacy alternates with alienation, is also called an emotional swing.

Don't call him all the time.

If you are used to calling your spouse 20 times a day, leave this occupation. Wish him a good day in the morning, kiss and forget about the phone for the whole day. But remember that the reaction of the faithful will not be instant. Most likely, at first he will even be delighted - no one distracts him with calls and messages. The psychology of behavior is simple: include partial ignoring. The more often you use this technique, the more actively the husband will “press” with questions.

Pick the right time.

A man will not want to discuss anything if he just came from work, is hungry, busy, has not had enough sleep, or is in a bad mood. Most likely your conversation will turn into a conflict. Therefore, look for the right time, as it will be problematic to continue a conversation with a man who is not in a good mood.

How to keep peace in the family?

People hate each other, curse, condemn and blame. And all the same happens in families where there are two polar points of view on what is happening around. We lose loved ones, abandon friends, cut loved ones out of our lives. Here are the rules that will help you keep the peace in the family: • Avoid discussing politics and the news: wrote a poster "We don't discuss politics!" and put it on the refrigerator. • Digital hygiene - half an hour a day to read news from non-judgmental sources, where the facts are given without comment. • See goals that converge: live well, raise children, be healthy and earn a living. • Focus on what unites: what brought you together has not disappeared. • Distance with people who wind up annoyance.

How to properly prioritize.

What prevents every woman from living in harmony with herself and finding time for everything? Wrong prioritization. I give a clear scheme that works unambiguously: 1st place - you 2nd place - your husband 3rd place - your children 4th place - your husband's parents 5th place - your parents 6th place - your career Surprised how is it? Husband put above the children? If you cherish a child all day long and ignore your husband, he will find attention on the side. And if you put your spouse and children in the first place, and yourself in the third place, then sooner or later everyone will sit on your neck.

7 ways to cope with the stress of a change of residence.

Moving is one of the strongest stress factors. And if it is a move to another country, it is doubly stressful.⠀ Here are some tips to help you cope with stress:⠀ 1. Start learning the language of the country you live in. 2. Learn the culture and customs of that country. 3. Keep in touch (call) with friends and family (Skype, WhatsApp, Viber, etc.). Distance is no longer an issue. 4. Make new acquaintances, socialize, meet. 5. Take up or continue exercising. This will help increase your stress tolerance. 6. Take up something you've wanted to do for a long time (a hobby): fencing, yachting courses, etc. 7. Watch your daily routine (sleep at least 8-9 hours), eat right, go for a walk in the fresh air. All this will also help you overcome the stress associated with a change of residence.

How we do NOT get each other.

For example: A good driver is: ▫️ Cautious, not sure don't overtake ▫️ Racer, cool and fast ▫️ Calm and follow every single rule So is a good one, two or three? Hence all the misunderstandings between people. Speakers of different languages understand each other better, because they clarify, am I right to understand that you mean this and that?

What to do about laziness?

3. Process laziness: - find an expert - use reverse planning - divide the task into subtasks, and those, in their turn, into even smaller tasks. 4. In creative laziness: - look for what inspires you (a person, a book, a walk, a trip) - read the post about "creative laziness" (wrote earlier) 5. Lazy for company: - think about what's keeping you here - run away from such company. 6. In prolonged laziness: - if you notice such a sin with you, I recommend planning and clearly tracking your lazy time. Yes, yes .... Just set an alarm, set a reminder.

What to do about laziness?

First of all, determine what kind of laziness you have at the moment. Then start taking action. 1. In case of physiological laziness: - get enough sleep - revise your plan for the day / week / month - give yourself permission to be healthy and lazy - do things that energize you 2. In protest laziness: - drop everything, say "no" - change your attitude - find something that will motivate you to do the task - think of something to reward yourself with

What is laziness? A lifestyle? Lack of motivation? A state of mind?

There are several types of laziness: 1) Physiological laziness. - chronic lack of sleep - malaise - busy schedule - other reasons 2) Protest laziness. - don't like the project that I have to work on - don't like the subject of the term paper or thesis 3) Process laziness. - don't know where to start - don't know what to do 4) Creative laziness. - lack of inspiration - depression, melancholy 5) Laziness for company. - the people around you are not doing anything 6) Lingering laziness. - thought you were going to lay around for an hour, but, in the end, laziness has taken over you for days.