How to survive a breakup.

1. Let go of yourself. If you want to shed tears, then cry, you can even scream, sing, dance, lie in bed for hours. 2. Allow yourself to feel the feelings. Answer yourself honestly: what qualities in a partner did you love and whether he actually possessed them. It is also important to understand what you wanted from the relationship and what you got in the end. 3. Don't blame yourself for the breakup. Two people are always to blame for the breakup of relations, because contact was gradually lost between you. 4. Keep your distance. Immediately after parting, it is necessary to keep a distance from each other. 5. Do not look for a replacement for the former. Flirting or casual sex can help, but not for long, because now you are very vulnerable and suddenly you will begin to pin hopes on casual relationships. 6. Start planning for the future. Everything that makes you happy should be on the list. It is important to regularly replenish the list, and when sadness and depression pile up, be sure to re-read it.

Hey, mind if I sit here?

Sit down next to your opponent to have more influence. Let's say you know that your colleague is planning to step on you at the next meeting. To avoid being defeated, you should sit next to him. It will confuse the attacker, because it would be much easier to storm the one who is farther away. This trick always helps me save face in conflict situations.

Zeitnot.

Let your interlocutor know that you must handle the situation in a very short time.The point is that such a limitation will make her/him feel uncomfortable. Experiencing emotions makes it harder for the victim to withstand and make reasonable and informed decisions. Usually, when I need to get the other person's consent quickly, I tell her/him, "Okay, we have five minutes, so let's get straight to the point. I propose...".

Keep respect.

Male conceit is a fragile thing that needs to be protected even in the heat of a quarrel. After all, the conflict will someday end, and your insults or neglect will remain in his memory forever. Therefore, try to refrain from harsh statements and unfounded criticism.

Indifference in marriage.

What to do if a man has become indifferent to the once beloved woman, his wife, and lives with her out of habit? The reasons may be different: a crisis stage in a relationship, a woman's misbehavior. For example, excessive control and distrust always slowly kill love. Or here is a common situation: after marriage, a tender and caring bride turned into a fury who is dissatisfied with everything. Pit and piss. Then love is replaced not by love, but by irritation, a desire to escape and subsequent indifference.

Rules for a serious conversation.

• Try to stick to an approximate conversation plan, so as not to go into a showdown, remembering all the grievances. • Pick a time. A man will not want to discuss anything if he just came from work, hungry, busy. • Start from the end. Immediately voice your position or desire. • Think over objections and prepare arguments in your favor. • Talk about your feelings. If you blame him, make harsh claims, this will not lead to a solution to the problem, but will only aggravate it. • End on a positive note. Thank the man, tell him a compliment.

Being heard.

Perhaps, that’s the most essential thing in dealing with people. Being heard and accepted. To have a space where your feelings are acknowledged and given a place. This is the foundation of harmonious relationships and what empowers us to make a difference. It's good to hear and to be heard.

What is your life speed?

The speed should be such that your eyes have time to see the beauty. Your hands have time to feel the surface. Your body has time to enjoy. You could detect smells and sounds. And to feel alive. When we lose that feeling, we have to slow down. When we gain it, it means we live as we should.

The right key.

The best teacher is PERSONAL EXPERIENCE. Though someone else's is worth learning more about. Especially relevant to you will be the experience of people who have developed in the same field as you. Studying someone else's experience is a great help when you're down and do not know how to find the key to a new problem.

Read when the going gets tough.

I can handle everything. I am strong/Strong. Everything I do is not in vain. Every day is important. I create my reality. It depends only on me how I will react to circumstances. I choose myself. I've already come a long way. I love myself so I won't give up. Failure is experience. Take a deep breath, dry your tears, thank yourself, and move on. You will succeed!

How to tell your husband about a divorce?

• Be tactful: in a calm environment, not in a hurry, start a conversation. Do this before the weekend, because the spouse will not be able to immediately recover and go to work. • Much depends on the choice of location. To speak with a quick-tempered and aggressive man, you need to be in a room where there are a lot of people. It could be friends or relatives. In no case should you start a conversation while being close to children. • The conversation has not yet taken place, you must already have a suitcase packed with things. Prepare the documents in advance, if he hides them, then the matter will be delayed. In the presence of material dependence, it is necessary to have money in reserve and find housing.

How to understand that your marriage is on the verge of breaking.

Answer the following questions honestly: • How often do you and your husband make love and how satisfied are you with the quality of your intimate life? • How close are you to your husband: does he share his successes with you, tell you what is happening at work? • Do you have common activities outside of everyday life? • How often do you compliment each other? • When was the last time you had a rest together, had fun and interesting time? If you realized that you have long become strangers living under the same roof, is it any wonder why a husband communicates with other women? Or why is he cold towards you? Any gap is explainable and it did not arise in 5 seconds. All this accumulates for months, and maybe even years.

In search of uniqueness.

Why are we afraid of making mistakes? Because we've been told since childhood: "It's bad to be wrong, it's dangerous to be wrong, you mustn't be wrong". These are the most common misconceptions that prevent people from trying new things, changing, and improving their lives. You should be PROUD of making mistakes since this is the ONLY way to overcome mediocrity and find uniqueness.

Shut off your brain.

We all live in an endless stream of information. Social media, news, work issues, etc. Our brains CONSTANTLY process and reproduce various thoughts. Think back to the last time your head rested from information overload. The brain is actually active even while sleeping. Being in a constant state of stress indeed reduces our energy levels many times over. Give your brain a chance to RELAX, at least a couple of times per day. Turn off all of your gadgets, close your eyes, and just keep your mind silent for 15 minutes.

Don't bring up past mistakes.

Many people use as an argument in disputes the grievances of the past, which it is high time to forget. This shows that there are no real arguments, but only grievances that people accumulate in relationships in order to show them later. If the situation of the past still causes violent emotions in you, you have every right to them. But it is important to work them out, and not dump them on your husband every time.

Negative attitudes towards men.

In modern society, men and women have a lot of claims to each other. If, for example, a woman has an attitude that “all men are goats”, this is easily read in her behavior and conversations. And most importantly, those around us also feel such thoughts in us. And they react accordingly. Therefore, if you want to build healthy relationships, first of all you need to deal with your negative attitudes.

What to do if you have a fight with your husband?

Frequent scandals tire, deprive of peace, destroy marriages. So: 1. Make time for yourself. Write a list of things that bring you joy and pleasure. 2. Get rid of the orderly tone. If you are used to solving all problems through ultimatums, change tactics. Start communicating with your spouse in the language of flirting and compliments. 3. Make a "beacon of pain." Take a thin elastic band and put it on your hand. As soon as you could not restrain yourself in a conversation with your husband, click this rubber band on your wrist. 4. Choose the right time. No boring conversations at the end of the working day or at dinner! If you want to convey your requests to your husband, do it when the missus is in a good mood, full of energy for the implementation of all plans.

Know how to listen.

Being a charismatic man doesn't mean you have to say A LOT! Even if you can speak like Churchill. If you don't know how to listen, and the person you are talking to doesn't feel that you are keen on her/him, you won't become an interesting conversationalist. To develop your own charisma you need to learn how to listen, support, inspire, encourage, and even comfort others.

Notice your successes!

Even minor ones, and particularly when it comes to significant victories. Establish a TRADITION to celebrate your good FORTUNE. It is NOT necessary every time to go to a bar to hang out with friends. Do just something nice for yourself that day and share THIS with your beloved ones. By the way, Vishen Lakhiani, the CEO of Mindvalley, rings a special bell every time something good happens.

Ask someone who is tired.

When someone is tired, they are more receptive to all requests. The reason is that a tired person is exhausted not only physically, but emotionally as well. When you ask a tired person for a favor, you'll probably get an answer like: "Okay, I'll do it tomorrow", because at this point she/he doesn't want any more problems to solve.