Nature is the best teacher.

Only the strongest survive. This rule of the jungle is applicable to our lives. Somewhere in Africa, a gazelle wakes up in the morning and it keeps in mind it must run faster than a lion. Otherwise it will be eaten. There, in Africa, a lion also wakes up. It's mindful of the need to survive as well. It should run faster than the gazelle. What's there to learn? It absolutely doesn't matter whether you are a gazelle or a lion. When the sun comes up, you have to run. You don't have enough time to think about what to do next. It's not worth composing your thoughts for hours to start doing something. You have to get up and run. Run until you realize that today you are a well-fed lion, not a mauled gazelle.

Note to women.

Remember how mistresses who are given apartments / cars behave: they flirt, give sex - a passionate night of love, set them free, receive gifts! What do most wives do? Correctly! They do not trust and constantly control. Instead of “I’m waiting for you, my love,” they shout into the phone: “Hello, where are you?”. Forget about flirting, about women state, they do not know how to enjoy life and give this joy to their man. Do you want a secret? Men are naturally unemotional! They need recharging with positive emotions from women. They are charged and delighted, looking at our satisfied eyes, get high on how we enjoy. They are attracted to women who know how to have fun! From themselves, from their man, they motivate him to succeed, "blow his wings." They want to be close to such a woman and throw everything at her feet!

The tactility of a woman.

This is what all men pay attention to. Since childhood, a maternal image has been formed in his head. In psychology, it is he who forms the idea of a woman, her care, affection and warmth. Therefore, I recommend all women to stroke their men for no reason, simply because you love them.

How to get out of a destructive relationship.

For a woman, this is not an easy step, since in such a relationship she is most often a victim. Sometimes this is even a dangerous decision, the behavior of a partner can be unpredictable. What to do: 1. Keep your distance. It is very important to physically distance yourself. Try to completely move into your space. 2. Become uninteresting. Do not make excuses, do not be frank and do not explain anything. 3. Believe in yourself. This is difficult, especially when your self-esteem has been trampled on for a long time. But remember: everything that your ex says is not about you, but first of all about him.

"Alarm bells" in communication with a man.

1. Aggressive behavior towards animals, service personnel and children. If a man allows himself to shout or raise his hand to those who are weaker or occupy a subordinate position - think about it. His intemperance will touch you one day. 2. Craving for alcohol, drugs, gambling. Remember that for many addicts, the phrase “I will definitely quit” is just a convenient front for manipulation. 3. The division of work into "male" and "female". Do you feel that a man does not help you with housework, constantly reminds you of “female duties”, but is in no hurry to take financial responsibility for the family? It's time to do outreach and show your partner that both should invest in the relationship.

We are all on the watch for it...

It happens that walking the labyrinth of our thoughts, we come in NOWHERE. Questions remain unanswered and situations remain desperate. When suddenly, the inner turmoil turns into the insight explosion. The answers come from nowhere, and the solution comes effortlessly. The problem collapses like a house of cards in an instant. Everything becomes crystal clear: what to do, what to say, where to go.

What is your speed of life?

The speed should be such that your eyes had time to see the beauty. Your hands could feel the surface. Your body had time to enjoy itself. You should have an opportunity to recognize smells and sounds and feel alive. When we lose that feeling, we have to slow down. When we gain it, it means we do everything right.

Don't be afraid to leave what you don't need behind.

Following the path of life, you need to learn to leave behind without regret everything that makes your path forward difficult: bad memories and old grievances, past mistakes and past disappointments, and most importantly, people who have proven by their words and deeds that you are no longer comfortable with them. way...

2 reasons why you fall in love with unworthy men.

1. Your dad was cold, didn’t praise, didn’t stroke, maybe he left and forgot. Maybe he beat and called him a dumbass. So you are looking for a replacement for your “dad”, that you never fell in love, in order to be super good this time and break the loop, falling in love with this frostbitten and proving to yourself that you still deserve love. 2. Low self-esteem attracts poisonous snakes. Yes, that's how abuser attraction works.

Why are you no longer interested in him?

You can't choose. In this case, a “teacher” will come to you, and not a partner who will drive around the patient. Such men do not appreciate, do not hear, change. You don't value yourself. This leads to constant dissatisfaction on your part and depreciation on his part. If you don't value yourself, how can a man appreciate you? You don't know how to build trust. Conversation on difficult / painful topics quickly develops into hysteria, tears, interrogation or edification. What is important to you, you are trying to get through blackmail, resentment, manipulation. As a result, mental coldness develops into physical. He doesn't want you anymore. You don't know how to keep your dignity. You don’t know how to stop attacks, criticism against you with dignity, set boundaries, put him in his place so that he realizes and apologizes.

How to take power over communication with the help of time?

Yes yes, it is possible! Especially when you are not yet personally acquainted with a man. Imagine that he asked you on a date and this is your first meeting. Before the man specifies the time, say the phrase: "I can at 7 o'clock" (write your own time) This psychological technique automatically allows you to take control of the situation!

Being heard.

This is probably the most important thing in verbal communication. Being heard and accepted. To have a place where your feelings are acknowledged and accepted. This is the foundation of harmonious relationships that empowers us to change for the better. Hearing and being heard it’s what we need.

The right key.

The best teacher is PERSONAL EXPERIENCE. But others' experiences are also worth learning from. The experiences of people who have developed in the same field would be especially useful to you. Studying someone else's experience is a great help when you're down and you don't know how to find the key to solve a problem.

How does a person express his love?

Sometimes people feel unloved not because they are, but only because everyone interprets this feeling differently, putting different concepts into it. Most often, a person expresses love exactly as his parents taught him. And not always in a good way. As a child, a person does not distinguish between good and bad attitudes. For him, at the genetic level, parents are a source of love. And some parents don't show love at all. For them, love is something abstract, they believe that it is not at all necessary for children to talk about it or express it with caresses or hugs. Growing up, a person projects the same behavior onto a partner. Awareness of this fact helps to better understand the state of the partner and the attitude towards you.

How to stabilize your self-esteem.

1. Stop comparing yourself to others. 2. Finish what you started. 3. Do not divide people into "better" and "worse" than you. 4. Relax and stop proving your strength. 5. Accept your experiences and emotions. 6. Consider your weaknesses and the weaknesses of others as features, not shortcomings.

Anchoring in a relationship with a man.

Anchors in relationships are very powerful associations associated with a desired woman in a man. The woman herself creates them. If, for example, during intimacy there is always red lipstick on the lips, then the man will develop a connection “red lipstick-anchor-enjoyment”. You can anchor with music, underwear, touches, phrases. The main condition: all these chips, attributes for fixing anchors should be used only during proximity. After that, you can already use these anchors as associations related to you.

How to save a marriage on the brink of divorce?

1. Start with yourself. Don't try to change your partner. It's impossible. Honestly and calmly analyze: what are you doing wrong? For example: you control every step of your husband, you criticize him. 2. Learn constructive dialogue. Replace reproaches with "I-statements". Not “You didn’t throw out the trash again, how many times should I remind you!”, But “I get upset when house cleaning agreements are violated.” 3. Take an interest in his affairs. Let's be honest: do you know how your spouse lives? What does he dream about, what career plans does he make, how does he imagine the perfect day off? Talk to each other, share experiences and spiritual secrets. It builds intimacy and builds trust.

Don't wait for inspiration.

Don't waste time waiting for the phantom muse. You should realize that inspiration is fickle. If your morning wasn't as cheerfully as you wanted, that's no reason to lose the whole day. Self-control and planning are the FOUNDATIONS for moving forward.

Don't multitask

If you feel like you're taking on too much, it may mean that the reason isn't even the overload itself. It's more likely that you're trying to perform many tasks at once. Quality of performance and productivity thus suffer! Doing ONE thing at a time will allow you to do it properly, without too much physical or mental effort.

Should you live with an alcoholic husband?

On the one hand, the question is strange, the answer suggests itself. It would be necessary to run away from such happiness without looking back. On the other hand, everything is not so simple. If you have already connected your life with a man who drinks heavily, then you definitely got into a co-dependent relationship. Marriage with a drinking man is a complete disappointment and bitterness. In fact, the wives of drunkards adapt and somehow live, or rather exist. Codependent relationships can last for years.