Top relationship problems.

• Accumulated negativity and cooling. Both are no longer interested and do not particularly want anything with each other. • One develops, builds a career / business, the second does nothing, sits at home and degrades. • Dissolution in a partner. It may seem to a partner that the more he adjusts, becomes good, the more they will love him. • The opposite situation - an attempt to crush, remake another, constant nit-picking and criticism. • Musts. "A man must / a woman must" and that's it. ▪In general, all problems in relationships come from one thing - from selfishness, self-obsession!

The principle of trust.

To build a serious relationship with a person, you need to know him and understand his values, and for this you need to build trust and intimacy. The main fear is to open up. The fear that the partner will hurt will hurt. If you do not trust a person in some way, creating close relationships and a happy family life in such conditions becomes impossible. The level of trust is determined by how open you are to each other.

Good with him, better without him.

In an abusive relationship, you feel that you are much better off without a partner than with a partner. When you go somewhere by yourself, you feel like a mountain has fallen from your shoulders. And at work you like to linger, just not to go home. And you come up with excuses to spend as little time as possible with your partner. If so, then you should think about whether your relationship is normal?

Reasons for change.

• desire to diversify life. • stress. • revenge. • alcohol. • desire to assert itself. • search for what you do not get from a partner. • search for emotional stability.

Thank the man!

For all his actions and the slightest signs of attention. Women often forget about it, even taking gifts for no reason for granted. But your gratitude feeds a man like living water. And these are not only words, but also emotions, actions. Hug him, jump for joy, smile, admire his taste, fantasy, care, attention. Do it sincerely, from the heart. A man will definitely feel it. And if nothing gives, ask! Everything is simple.

Why does a man not share and reproach money?

If a man reproaches and is greedy, it means one of two things: • He is basically greedy and never wanted to share. • It is unpleasant for him to share with you! ⠀ And if only a return to the manufacturer will help you with the first, then you can do something with the second.⠀ 1. Look at your face. If it is dissatisfied, expresses a claim, impact and irritation, why are you surprised? 2. Look at your behavior. Maybe you have been taking his work for granted for a long time and do not thank, do not give feedback?

What to do if you are not happy in a relationship?

When you realize that you are not happy in a relationship, you have 4 options for solving: 1. Get out of this relationship. 2. Stay and change for the better what is possible. 3. Stay and accept what cannot be changed. 4. Stay and ... continue to suffer and "dig in" even more. In practice, options 2 and 3 are often combined. In the case of physical violence against you or children - only the first option!

3 basic things that a man needs in a relationship.

1. Self-sufficiency. This is the ability to enjoy life, regardless of the circumstances. Therefore, a man, coming home, clings to her to feed. 2. Generosity. The ability to believe in a man, even when he shows weakness. 3. Knowing how we are. Accept that we are all different. But you can love and be happy with a person completely different from you!

The price we pay for weaknesses.

Self-discipline consists of two basic tools: reward and punishment for weakness. For example, your goal is to lose weight. But you let yourself eat a piece of cake. You'll have to pay for it with an extra gym session or extra pounds. If your goal is a red diploma in college or a career in general, then you will also have to sacrifice time and other personal resources to achieve it. Accustom yourself to the fact that you will have to pay with an extra effort for any setback

There are no "failures" or "tragedies".

There is only reality, your personal reality, for which only you are responsible to yourself and to the universe. It's not so easy... This perception requires practice, attunement, and responsibility. However, this approach to yourself and life ultimately rewards you and gives you total freedom to be yourself. Since only this approach lights the inner fire – the most powerful inner energy that fundamentally changes your life.

Signs of a weak man.

1. Self-affirms at the expense of others. Insists on the implementation of absurd prohibitions, often raises his voice, indicates to whom and what needs to be done, humiliates and insults. 2. Jealous of every post. Total self-doubt and fear of loss make the weak control any step of a woman. 3. Shifts responsibility to others. A man with a strong-willed character will never say that everything went wrong, because the stars did not converge, he is unlucky, etc. A loser will blame others for everything, run away from obligations. 4. Does not know how to express his opinion and defend it. Such people avoid saying something, making serious decisions, so that later they will not be responsible for their words and actions. 5. Goes with the flow and does not go anywhere. On questions about plans for the future, you can easily understand what your chosen one really is. Sometimes they make a lot of promises, dream out loud beautifully, but do nothing.

The art of compromise.

A man doesn't have to have the same opinion as you, and that's okay. Relationships are not a battlefield. Let the female wisdom that you possess help you every time your points of view openly diverge.

Suggest a solution.

Blaming, shifting responsibility, lecturing - approximately in this vein, women make claims against a man. How to present your dissatisfaction? If you declare a problem, be ready to find a compromise, offer your vision of the situation. For example: “Darling, I understand that you are busy with work right now. And I'm proud of your success. But rest is also very important. I suggest you do the following. Let's make sure to carve out two Saturdays of the month in order to go out into the world, to devote time to each other. What do you think about it?". Agree, such a speech is much more effective, instead of the phrase “Again, I’m alone all day!”

What kind of love does a man need?

Love-trust in the male understanding is a form of expression of love, in which the following conditions are met: • Partners fully accept each other, not trying to remake "for themselves." • A woman openly demonstrates to her man that she needs him. She does not try to do everything herself, but simply asks him for help. • A woman believes in her man and is always ready to inspire him to the next achievement.

Three steps ahead.

The fairly common verb "calculate" literally means - the ability of a person to design or adapt for a purpose. Form good habits not only in business matters but in everything. Calculate any situation at least three steps ahead. This will help make the RIGHT decisions avoiding unnecessary risks. Logic games might be helpful to develop this ability. For example, playing CHESS is excellent to improve strategy and tactics, it will teach you to forecast and prevent the occurrence of unpleasant moments.

Nature is the best teacher.

Only the strongest survive. This rule of the jungle is applicable to our lives. Somewhere in Africa, a gazelle wakes up in the morning and it keeps in mind it must run faster than a lion. Otherwise it will be eaten. There, in Africa, a lion also wakes up. It's mindful of the need to survive as well. It should run faster than the gazelle. What's there to learn? It absolutely doesn't matter whether you are a gazelle or a lion. When the sun comes up, you have to run. You don't have enough time to think about what to do next. It's not worth composing your thoughts for hours to start doing something. You have to get up and run. Run until you realize that today you are a well-fed lion, not a mauled gazelle.

Note to women.

Remember how mistresses who are given apartments / cars behave: they flirt, give sex - a passionate night of love, set them free, receive gifts! What do most wives do? Correctly! They do not trust and constantly control. Instead of “I’m waiting for you, my love,” they shout into the phone: “Hello, where are you?”. Forget about flirting, about women state, they do not know how to enjoy life and give this joy to their man. Do you want a secret? Men are naturally unemotional! They need recharging with positive emotions from women. They are charged and delighted, looking at our satisfied eyes, get high on how we enjoy. They are attracted to women who know how to have fun! From themselves, from their man, they motivate him to succeed, "blow his wings." They want to be close to such a woman and throw everything at her feet!

The tactility of a woman.

This is what all men pay attention to. Since childhood, a maternal image has been formed in his head. In psychology, it is he who forms the idea of a woman, her care, affection and warmth. Therefore, I recommend all women to stroke their men for no reason, simply because you love them.

How to get out of a destructive relationship.

For a woman, this is not an easy step, since in such a relationship she is most often a victim. Sometimes this is even a dangerous decision, the behavior of a partner can be unpredictable. What to do: 1. Keep your distance. It is very important to physically distance yourself. Try to completely move into your space. 2. Become uninteresting. Do not make excuses, do not be frank and do not explain anything. 3. Believe in yourself. This is difficult, especially when your self-esteem has been trampled on for a long time. But remember: everything that your ex says is not about you, but first of all about him.

"Alarm bells" in communication with a man.

1. Aggressive behavior towards animals, service personnel and children. If a man allows himself to shout or raise his hand to those who are weaker or occupy a subordinate position - think about it. His intemperance will touch you one day. 2. Craving for alcohol, drugs, gambling. Remember that for many addicts, the phrase “I will definitely quit” is just a convenient front for manipulation. 3. The division of work into "male" and "female". Do you feel that a man does not help you with housework, constantly reminds you of “female duties”, but is in no hurry to take financial responsibility for the family? It's time to do outreach and show your partner that both should invest in the relationship.