Pen is mightier than the sword…

During a heated argument people can say a lot of things which could sour or plague one’s relationship with another. Many people genuinely don’t understand what it was they said that could have been so offensive. “I told my wife her patty cakes were horrible and so was her hair! So what? It’s the truth!» «I told my husband out of spite that I have someone to compare him to. He was somewhat nicer, too. So he slammed the door! What is wrong with men these days? Bighead!” Now imagine every word you speak is a big, sharp kitchen knife. It’s dangerous if you pick it up and start swinging it in front of people. You might hurt somebody. Injure them badly or even kill them. Especially when that person trusts you and doesn’t expect it. In fact, despite the above analogy, there’s an accurate saying, which goes: “Words cut deeper than a knife”. Use the knife to prepare delicious holiday dishes instead!

No year reviews, just rely on yourself.

It's actually very difficult, because we are more willing to trust anyone but ourselves. "Who am I to believe myself?" "Believing myself, I'm bound to be wrong." That's the way most people reason and that’s why choose to believe others. As if others have something that insures them from making a mistake. No expertise will ever guarantee you anything. Shit happens to everyone. Mistakes help you grow and make you stronger.

Reciprocity works wonders.

This is important when you match. You do not coincide with characters and outlooks on life, but with the desire to be together. It seems to me that then, even being completely different, you automatically begin to coincide in the rest. Accepting each other as you are, not trying to remake, enriching and filling with what is not in you, but is in your loved one, you will be able to focus on pleasant moments without focusing on dissimilarity.

How to find the strength to leave an alcoholic husband?

3 steps to release: ▫️Look into the future, which will surely be little different from the sad present. Ready to be next to a drunkard to the last and ruin your life? Everyone gives answers to these questions. Of course, much depends on the degree of alcoholism, on the situation in the family. ▫️Separate the disease of the drunkard from himself and think about what can really be done. If he realizes that he is addicted and wants to get rid of this scourge, he can be helped. And if not? Then continue to cut him, spread rot, force him to go to a narcologist - it's useless! ▫️Stop saving him! Each person is the creator of his own life. First you have to stop patronizing an adult man. Let him take responsibility for his own life and actions.

How to choose a man who won't cheat.

All women dream of a man who does not cheat, because he is a reliable partner, next to whom it will always be comfortable. Many believe that there are no men who do not cheat, but in fact there are examples of how a man has remained faithful to his beloved. What you should pay attention to: Avoidance of attachment. Partners who avoid attachment, at the first sign of trouble, at best, withdraw into themselves, at worst, break off relations. And those who are not capable of radical actions begin to look for sexual connections on the side. Attitude towards casual sex. People who strongly believe in sex as an expression of love within certain relationships are less likely to look the other way than those who are used to changing partners like gloves.

Is it possible to forgive a lie to a loved one?

If a loved one admits his mistakes, does not deny the fact of a lie and wants to understand how to change the situation, then the lie can be forgiven. But if he continues to behave as if he is not to blame for anything, and accuses you of being too picky and suspicious, then you should think: are you on the way with this man? The reverse situation: what to do if you are caught in a lie? To begin with, answer yourself the question: “Why am I lying to my beloved”? What drives you every time you try to hide the truth and come up with an excuse? Fear of breaking up a relationship? But won't the consequences of lying be worse than what happens if the fact of lies is revealed?

How to flirt with your husband.

Any woman in a long-term marriage eventually asks the question "How to refresh the relationship?". Photo. Take a selfie in underwear, in bed, in the bathroom, in the fitting room - let your husband fidget a little in the office chair! Flirt in public. Press your thigh against your husband, kiss him, slap him or stroke him just below the back. Nothing turns on like a violation of the prohibitions imposed by public opinion. Text messages. If you want to get a male ready for a stormy night in the evening, instead of a tired fan of watching football, write something hot and promising to your husband. And add a candid selfie to the message. Believe me, he will definitely not stay at work. Don't be afraid to flirt with your husband. No matter how stupid you feel at that moment after many years together - he will appreciate it! Do you often flirt with your spouse?

Expectation.

If you believe that the most important things will come later, then your life turns into an endless waiting. Waiting makes it hard to live now. There is simply no energy left to live. The present moment is the only reality.

The more neural connections our brain has, the better our cognitive abilities.

Therefore, our brains need daily exercise. What's to be done?There is one working exercise that doesn't require any special conditions. Just close your eyes and try to move around your apartment, take a shower with your eyes closed, put some stuff in its place. Try to feel the value of a coin lying in your pocket. Try to learn Braille, a tactile writing system used by people who are visually impaired. What's the object of doing that? By doing this you boost neural connectivity and activate some brain areas, which usually perform little or no work. It's also a great exercise for the whole brain.

COMFORT ZONE: where and why?

To begin with, this is not a zone in which we feel emotionally and psychologically comfortable. In fact, it is a set of habitual actions, activities, impressions, circumstances, choices that are well entrenched in our lives and perceived by our brain as a safe zone. The warmer and more comfortable your comfort zone is, the harder it is to dare to change your life. It's indeed really difficult to do. You may think you can quickly change what you've been creating for years. Yes, you can. However, Dramatic changes cause significant setbacks. That's because your brain won't let you just get it out of its comfort zone. So IF YOU REALLY INTEND TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE, do it gradually and methodically.

Make it happen!

The New Year is just around the corner. We can already enjoy the smell of tangerines and Christmas trees, the menu is already planned and presents are bought. Traditionally, people try to start the New Year with a clean slate. So what should be done to prepare for it? ▫️Finish all your work and pay debts. ▫️Clean your apartment, get rid of your old clothes, furniture and other junk. ▫️Free up space on your phone and computer. Gadgets also need to be cleaned up. ▫️Ask your family and friends for forgiveness and forgive them if they have offended you. ▫️Take a moment to reflect on the past year. ▫️Don't forget to set goals for the New Year. Most importantly, be sure to THANK this outgoing year. Remember all the good things that happened to you this year and compliment even the smallest events in your life.

Fear paralyzes life.

Fear is a very ancient feeling and it is useless to fight with it. When fear takes over, it affects the whole nervous system. It is impossible to think rationally being in this state. The proliferating fear experienced over and over again makes one paralyzed. The whole world becomes a threat. It can go as far as panic attacks. It is absolutely impossible to cope with this feeling alone. You need the support of loved ones who may point you in the right direction. It can be a challenge for them (to support and reassure). It is also necessary to show the person a way to free her/his mind of obsessive thoughts. To explain that there’s no matter what you're afraid of, it is just a defense and hiding mechanism. Any fear always comes from an intrapersonal conflict.

Step by step.

If you do at least one small step toward the dream every single day, overcoming self-pity and doubt even if it is not so easy - one day reality will be better than your dreams. Change happens when you are ready for it. In order for love and abundance to enter your life, your soul must begin to expand. We grow only by receiving new knowledge and using it that is by thinking and acting differently. If you've just read or listened to something without bringing it to life, you have done NOTHING. For example, awareness after reading this post doesn't, in and of itself, lead to anything unless you intend to change your mind.

Domestic violence.

Many women are forced to endure beatings and humiliation, as they simply have nowhere to go from a relationship. This is how they themselves think, and this is the first delusion. The second misconception is "I can't do without this man." Many people forget, but we come into this world and leave it alone. And even when it seems to you that you will not cope, remember that this is only fear. You are stronger than you think. Another misconception is “You yourself are to blame for driving me”, an imposed feeling of guilt from a man. No man in the world has the right to beat you!

Do not start serious conversations daily.

You approach him all so properly motivated with the phrase: "We need to talk..." And he's horrified and doesn't know what to expect. And you let him talk about the problems in the relationship. Do you think he is a deaf and dumb idiot and does not understand that there are problems in your relationship? Unlike us women, who find it important to describe feelings in words, men prefer to think in actions. Therefore, more specifics, baby!

What to do if a man earns little.

Have you already connected your life with a beggar man? Then look at the prospects. If this is a young guy who shows promise, naturally you need to inspire him and endure financial inconvenience. And if you get hung up on how much a husband should earn and completely forget about his mission as a muse, the male potential will fall. For whom to try? For a grouchy and always dissatisfied wife-saw? Yes, she will never be enough! Therefore, it is not so important how much a husband earns now, he can definitely earn more with your support. Understandably, it will be difficult at first. Problems, lack of money, time, effort. But if a woman believes, supports, a man will achieve everything.

Life that’s just passing by.

Each of us has fantasies and dreams about that perfect life where everyone does what he/she loves, lives in a beautiful house by the sea and is surrounded by people who genuinely love and care about him/her. Happiness naturally may be different from one person to another, and your picture may differ as well. However, many of us don't let themselves move beyond the dream state of life. The present life where we see only negative things day by day just passes by. The ability to see positive things even in the worst of times is directly related to a mental process called attention. Many people living in more or less developed countries have great difficulties with attention. It's too hard for them to concentrate and notice small things, especially positive ones.

Childhood experiences are our foundation.

Our brain perceives words and phrases heard in our early childhood as facts. However, if you recognize negative beliefs and reactions that interfere with your life, then you can break your absurd and ridiculous limits, and move forward. True freedom starts with your mind! Observe your beliefs, patterns, habits, and allow yourself to call them into question. Maybe I should think different? Maybe it's not a sure thing?

Why do people get depressed in autumn?

We do not take into discussion people who have serious problems with mental health, for them autumn always means an aggravation. Autumn depression in a healthy person can be associated with such factors: The days are getting shorter and dimmer ▫️ no bright colors The holiday season has come to an end All this directly affects the production of serotonin - the hormone of happiness. A person often begins to overeat, there is a feeling of emptiness and uselessness.

Signs of female egoism.

• The egoist does not know how and does not want to give in to the chosen one. • She doesn't trust her man. She doesn't care about his opinion. • Such a woman does everything as she needs, insists on her own to the victorious. • She demands all the time, but gives nothing to the man in return. All egoists are used to taking, but they do not know how to give. • If a man does not want to fulfill her desire, she throws tantrums and accuses the chosen one of selfishness. • A woman constantly manipulates her partner. If you have found clear signs of selfishness in yourself, do not despair. Noticing them is already a big step towards victory.