Listening and hearing are two different things.

It's not a question of impaired hearing and mechanical noise, which sometimes interferes with our ear. What we mean is when a loved one doesn't want to hear you - it hurts, it's confusing, it's sad, it's annoying, and sometimes drives you mad! An extreme form of "you don't hear me" can eventually turn into "you don't notice me!" And that's where most of us cannot cope. It is important to understand one simple thing. The fact that you are not heard does not always mean IGNORED. Sometimes it’s a way of interacting. After all, it’s not a disaster, only a way for events to unfold. And if you are not heard SYSTEMATICALLY, perhaps there is a reason to think about finding those people who will really be interested in what you have to say.

Half an hour of silence.

Robin Charm wrote that Buddhist monks have a technique for strengthening willpower, keeping silent for 3-5 hours. However, there’s a technique you can try out today already – daily silence for 30 minutes. If you really need to speak, then you can limit yourself to just a few words. Believe me, the results will speak volumes.

Don't hide your true face.

We live in a time where hiding your true face is more difficult each day. Life is showing us, using many different ways, that it is necessary to be yourself, to be honest with yourself, to hear yourself, to be in touch with yourself. Therefore, it is worth getting rid of illusions. You want to live a real, happy life, don’t you?

What is MEDITATION?

Techniques such as yoga, meditation, Zen, usually help you to restore contact with your inner self. These are ways that can help you, forget about the periphery, leave it for a while and relax in your inner being so deeply that the external factors lose weight, and you can focus internally. All meditation techniques are aimed at making you brave, strong, ready for adventure, so that you can stop holding on and allow you to discover yourself.

The woman is insanely mutual.

Thus, a man can turn his woman either into a blooming Garden of Eden, where he can come to rest after hard trials and find peace, vent and peace, or into a clear and hard deadly mechanism that will finish him off with control in the head, before that passing through a meat grinder, breaking pride, and in some cases life. Once again, a woman is madly mutual. If you see a gentle, caring, calm, loving and devoted woman in front of you, then you are a true man. Honor and praise to you. If you see a cold-blooded, insensitive bitch who will step over you without even turning around, then in the past you have tried very hard, and the limit of female forgiveness and patience has been exhausted. Remember. When you look at your woman, you look at yourself. So don't ask for what you can't give yourself.

The woman is insanely mutual.

Men, unfortunately, often do not understand elementary things, for example, one simple truth - women are insanely mutual. They absorb the attitude of a man towards himself on an energy level - what actions a man does for them, what words he says, whether these words coincide with actions, and so on. Over time, a man receives a boomerang, which he himself launched, the result of his own behavior, - a woman who is woven either from the pleasant impressions that he gave her, from the attention, care, tenderness and warmth with which he pampered her, from time and the strength he put into it. Or exactly the opposite. For a woman always returns this accumulated energy back to a man. This is the law.

Take care.

From someone else's evil, so that it does not become yours. From assessments that poison, but do not help to see more widely. And from appraisers who think they're always right. Take care. Keep your inner home clean. Do not accumulate rubbish, wipe the dust, water the flowers. Don't let anyone enter your world without knocking and with dirty shoes. And do not leave the door open for those who will not enter it. Take care. His vulnerability, sincerity and courage to be in a single copy. Don't disappear behind other people's backs. Do not turn off the light in yourself, even if someone does not need it. Take care. Sometimes this is the only thing left to swim across the river and get out on the other side.

What do they fall in love with?

They don't fall in love with our traits, strengths and weaknesses. Fall in love with the state that partners experience next to you. And it's not about quality. If I fall in love with the strong and independent - it's my own inner vulnerability, I need protection. If I fall in love with household ones, my life probably lacks the order that I would like. And I also fall in love with the free, if I myself am squeezed into the vise of family rules. And men do the same. If he is pleased to feel needed, he will fall in love with a woman-problem: either she broke the car, then she left the house without keys. If you want to hang out in childhood, he will choose the one with whom he can feel like a boy. There is a search for the state in which a person is as comfortable as possible, and, perhaps, he will experience this state with you. What do people feel around you? Think about it.

How your money destroys relationships.

A financially independent wife can either save or destroy her marriage, depending on the scenario chosen: • She can turn her money into an object of manipulation, all the time poking her husband with her nose that he has no power over her. But soon she will hear: pay for everything yourself, since she is so smart. And out of pride, she will plow, pay, and will never see any help and care. • She puts her money in the service of keeping a man. No money for a restaurant? I'll pay myself. Keep an expensive gift, I took out a loan. Need to borrow? Take it! It is not necessary to return or I will not dare to ask. This is very detrimental to a man. The result: a slacker and gigolo who always pulls money out of her. Understand, it is important for a woman to have her own income! This deprives a man of the temptation to press and threaten. And it gives confidence that you have a choice: leave or stay.

Don't try to find out if he has a mistress.

- Dear, do you have a mistress? - Oh sure. I'll show you the pictures. Do you really expect such a development of the dialogue? Of course, perspiration will come out on his forehead. But this will not be proof that he eats dumplings on the side. Maybe he's just about to. Or maybe he's not hungry at all. Or maybe he has stomach problems and is worried? In response to your aggression, the husband will clean up the browser history, export bookmarks with porn, change the password on the phone and walk around with the face of a holy martyr sentenced to be burned. But this does not mean that he had a mistress. Men in general tend to be afraid that you will find out "something is wrong" long before the problem arises. Even more, they tend to worry that you are restricting their little freedoms, like the freedom to believe that they have freedom.

Hugs: why is it so important?

Psychologically, you need 8 hugs a day to feel good. Hugs are the strongest process of exchanging positive energy. It is not only pleasant, but also useful. Positive emotions have a beneficial effect on health, and this is not self-hypnosis. Hugging increases the level of a number of hormones in the blood. Conclusion: girls, hug more often with your men, children, loved ones and relatives!

Types of men to stay away from.

Critic. He condemns everything you do. You need to understand the difference: criticizing is not the same as giving advice. passive aggressor. With such a person, you feel as if you should walk on tiptoe. Denial of feelings, sarcasm, questionable compliments are indicators that you are dealing with a passive aggressor. Narcissus. With all his behavior he shows that his existence is the best gift: he knows everything, he is the best in everything and does not hesitate to remind you of this every minute. Stone wall. A rock wall is a person who refuses to engage in conversation and share their feelings when problems arise. He constantly dodges direct questions. antisocial personality. Aggressive and explosive behavior. He also has psychopathic tendencies, a lack of remorse and empathy, a tendency to take advantage of others, greed, vindictiveness.

Investment in relationships.

Relationships need to be built: the more you invest in them, the more expensive the partner becomes. The same mechanism works when we develop self-love - it grows through self-care, putting strength into ourselves. Therefore, invest in relationships, appreciate what they give you and, of course, keep a balance!

Why am I not in the first place with my husband?

Many women are unhappy that their husband does not pay enough attention to them, is too busy with himself, his work, ideas and projects. The normal priorities of a psychologically healthy person are in order: himself, then his partner, then their children, then parents, and then there are friends, buddies and everything else. If your husband has you and your needs in the first place, most likely, he is not in the best psychological state. If you really want to be in the first place with a man, ask yourself - why is this so important to you? Maybe because your own priority system has failed? And you yourself are not in the first place, but in the second, third or twentieth?

Do's and don'ts to tell your girlfriend during a divorce.

If your girlfriend is getting a divorce, then this difficult situation will affect you too. What phrases to say, and which ones should be avoided during this difficult period for her: ❌ How are you? ❌ Let's meet sometime? ❌ What happened? ❌ Have you been to a psychotherapist? ❌ I don't understand what you're upset about. ✅ How are you today? ✅ Do you have someone to talk to? ✅ How can I help? ✅ I love you, I am always with you. ✅ Do you want to talk?

Give positive emotions.

If a husband is happy next to you, will he look at others? Working on emotional fulfillment in a relationship is important. The “wow-effect” gives the greatest charge: for example, from jointly overcome difficulties. You can simply create as many bright positive memories as possible: for example, from an actively spent vacation.

People who enjoy criticizing others.

A narcissist is a personality type that likes to devalue others to show his importance, he criticizes in order to appear more intelligent, more significant, more powerful in the eyes of others. But is he really like that or is it just a front? Most likely a front. Most likely, he was underestimated as a child, and he is now taking it out on others. If a person really is a narcissist, it is impossible to change him, he will constantly manipulate you, criticize and devalue you.

I'm going to write you a letter.

The more complicated our life becomes, the more difficult it is for us to contain ourselves. Anger and aggression are extremely destructive feelings and for the person carrying them the most. Suppose you are plagued by a feeling of irritation and even hatred for a certain person. How do you cope? Let's write him or her a letter! The essence of this technique is that you write a letter to the person you are angry with. Let yourself go - write EVERYTHING that has accumulated in you, what you think about this person, what you feel towards them. Express everything as it is, everything that is on your mind, without limiting yourself in expressions. After you are done, you can read everything again, after which you tear the letter and throw it away.

Why is it important to set and protect your personal boundaries?

Because these are your UNIQUE ways of living, your experiences, your unique thinking and your unique emotions. This is your unique “self”. And it must be carefully protected and taken care of. If you don’t set your personal boundaries you won’t have a personal life either, you wouldn’t be yourself. You wont fulfill your potential and live the way you dreamed. It is when you build your boundaries that your strength, your thoughts, your true feelings, your future - will return to you, which you will see firsthand. After you regain them, you will enjoy harmony, happiness and experience sense of contentment in life.

Your focus for the year.

When planning out your year, month or week I strongly recommend setting yourself a goal - a focus. That is going to be something your attention is always drawn to. Setting yourself more than 2 or 3 focuses is pointless. Pick and follow the most crucial one. Example: You have a school project due in March, but you haven’t even started working on it. Set yourself a focus for February - PROJECT. This way, using a day planner, you’ll know what errands you should accentuate and how to go about your day more efficiently in regards to your goal. In other words, you can plan out your whole year around 2 or 3 important goals (focuses).