You made me shine from within again

You made me understand that I am loved despite my imperfections. It turned out that true love does not seek flaws – it simply accepts everything as it is. I accept you wholly too. I accept and rejoice in this, for I also feel a sense of love for you.

To love means to protect

To love means to cherish. To love is to never cause pain. Neither in anger, nor in offense, nor in rage. To love is to guard someone's heart not only from the outside world but also from yourself - from your anger, bad mood, and irritability. It's as if you have been entrusted with the most precious thing in the world, and you have sworn to be its faithful guardian because only you can preserve its integrity. To love means to cherish.

Living and Rejoicing: The Main Thing in Life

Living and rejoicing - that is perhaps the main thing in life. Even when it seems like everything is falling apart, when everything is going wrong, when people disappoint your expectations, when situations turn out worse than they could have... let go of your automatic claims. Continue to believe in the wisdom of life. Everything will work out. Everything will be fine. Everything will get better. Do what you can without forcing yourself, trust the rest to life itself. Everything will be fine, let go of the doubts. Believe, no matter what. Everything will be wonderful. Exactly!

Bad Luck in Love is Not a Sentence

Bad luck in love is not a sentence. By working on oneself, one can always change the situation for the better. The main thing is to learn to value oneself and not try to change others. A woman will be lucky in love if... She loves and fully accepts herself, even if she is not entirely satisfied with some aspects of herself. She does not need a relationship to maintain her self-respect. She is independent and can take care of herself. She accepts others as they are without trying to change them. She does not suppress either 'negative' or 'positive' emotions. She constantly engages in self-development and takes care of her appearance. She has high self-esteem. She enjoys being in the company of men, accepting them as they are. She does not need to feel needed by someone to feel worthy. She allows herself to be open and trusting with certain people. However, she will not allow herself to be exploited.

It takes 8 years to forget an ex

It takes about 8 years to forget an ex - scientists have proven it. Why so long? It's simple: during this time, the cells in the body are almost completely renewed. Not only does the body change - emotional memory is also updated. The connection is literally erased at the biological level.

Useful Psychological Techniques

1. It is better not to use phrases such as 'I think' or 'it seems to me' in speech or writing. They are implied, but they add a touch of uncertainty to the words. 2. Before an important interview, it is helpful to imagine having a long-standing close friendship with the interviewer. It almost always depends on us how we perceive the situation, and our calmness and ease may be conveyed to the interlocutor. 3. People tend to agree to a smaller favor after refusing a bigger one.

Balance and Harmony

A balanced life that includes work, rest, relationships, and self-development can create the harmony necessary for a sense of complete and long-term happiness. Happiness is individual and unique to each person. Discovering one's path to happiness requires time, self-analysis, and willingness to change. Let each of us seek and find our key to this cherished state of well-being.

Be cool

Equanimity is an extremely important quality of leadership. People around you feel calm and subconsciously recognize you as a leader. But how do you learn to take the initiative and look confident? Learn to hide certain gestures. Try not to jerk your head, do not make sudden movements, do not turn improvised objects in your hands. Be status even alone with yourself.

When a person is loved, they will certainly worry about him.

For his life, health, state of mind. It has nothing to do with control, jealousy and possessiveness. “How do you feel?”, “Be careful”, “When you get there, be sure to call.” These simple, at first glance, words are pronounced because they are very worried about someone and are afraid of losing him, but not from their own life, but from life in general. This speaks volumes, because there is someone for whom it is very important that you are alive and well and just walk on this Earth. The absence of anxiety speaks of one thing - he simply does not care about you ...

Jealousy. How to deal with it?

Constant and strong jealousy usually indicates that there is a fairly serious problem either in a relationship or within a person’s personality. At the very least, each of us may well take responsibility for our lives and feelings, deal with them on our own or with the help of a psychologist.

Jealousy. How to deal with it?

In most cases, we do not think about the fact that under jealousy a variety of feelings can be hidden, and jealousy serves only as a cover, a kind of screen. And there are a lot of feelings here, and it’s not immediately clear which one of them follows which one. The list is endless and for each person in his particular story, it will, of course, be individual: anxiety, fear, sadness, anger and many other feelings. It is important, I think, not to ignore the situation when jealousy brings excessive suspicion, humiliation and control over the life and behavior of another person. This is already a signal that it is time to think about the true causes of jealousy.

Jealousy. How to deal with it?

Learn not to be jealous - you can! I don’t have a universal recipe, but the first thing a jealous person should start with is to take a journey into the depths of their personality and raise their own self-esteem. When you feel with every cell of your being that you are accepted as you are and you are attractive to another person, then the need to keep a partner will go away by itself, he will be there. And you just need to be near him.

Jealousy. How to deal with it?

Jealousy, in fact, has little to do with love. Jealous does not mean he loves, but jealous means he is afraid of losing. If he loses, then he will have to endure a terrible feeling of loneliness. The unconscious fear of losing a relationship makes a person cling with all his might to the object of affection and control the other person, his life. And in fact, the jealous person, in this way, devalues, first of all, his life and his ability to take care of himself on his own and do something very important for himself. A jealous person may have a fantasy that the other person willingly does not want to stay in a relationship with him. Therefore, there is a feeling that if he lets go of his partner’s field of vision, then he will never return to him in his life or leave him forever.

Jealousy. How to deal with it?

If it were possible to describe the universal cause of the origin of jealousy, then I would define it as a sense of ownership. A person who is an owner is a person who does not want or is afraid to lose a “beloved” object. If you look deep into the personality of a jealous person, then there is usually a fear of being abandoned. A person begins to strive to keep another close by at any cost and in no case allows him to "leave" himself. There is control over the life of a loved one, control is excessive, sometimes reaching the point of absurdity.

Jealousy. How to deal with it?

The feeling of jealousy, I think is familiar to all of us. Jealousy is one of the most common problems with which couples come to a consultation with a psychologist. At its core, jealousy can be the cause of conflicts and disagreements in the family, and sometimes even divorce. We will talk in detail about jealousy in marital relations in a separate issue of the column: What to do when love “passes away”? Today, let's approach the issue of jealousy a little more broadly. Jealousy is often confused with envy. When there is jealousy for the success of colleagues, friends, spouse or even a child, then there will be a feeling of envy. Envy differs from jealousy in the desire to possess what another person has, including some opportunities and freedom of choice, the freedom to be oneself.

Conscious people

They know how to feel life, not think about it. Conscious people know that the best decisions are made not by the mind but by the heart. The mind is limited. Although it tries to take control of all our life, there are secret tendencies, elusive connections, and much more that it can't manage. The intuition going from the heart is truly sensitive — it is what we need to trust. If you practice these intuitive skills, someday you will notice that you are not just mindlessly going with the flow of events but live every single day of your life with joy and pleasure.

Conscious people

They are able to follow what is happening from the external observer position, not getting involved but staying out of the fray. For example, when the mud from the wheel of a passing car hits you from head to toe, the first reaction is to shout at the offender and tell him or her all you think about it. A conscious person will get out of this situation, and before taking any action, will look at the other side: the offender still would not hear your cry, and even if he or she would, it is unlikely to react. Besides, he or she probably didn't do it on purpose — most likely he or she was just in too much of a hurry, too late, too nervous. They are not focused on the past because they know for sure: what's gone, can't be changed. They're also not obsessed with thinking about the future because they keep in mind the fact that we never know what life has in store for us.

Boosting self-esteem

▫️The first step in overcoming any bad habits is being aware of them. Observe yourself. Instead of engaging in self-condemnation, try to get to know yourself by analyzing the way you behave. ▫️Change your social circle. Take note which people are present in your life and what is the essence of your relationship with them. Perhaps, if you objectively evaluate your environment, you will see that you give people more than you get from them.⠀⠀ ▫️Never forget about your strengths and don't be too hard on yourself. For personal use only, make a list of your inherent strengths and what you do really well. ▫️Keep calm and try to mitigate stress. Avoid the hustle and bustle. Develop stress resistance. You will gain self-confidence if you do the tasks you set yourself.

How self love is shown

A person who loves himself trusts himself and the Universe. He knows that all good things are in abundance, and there is enough for everyone. He believes he deserves the best. A person who loves himself does not take anything away from anyone, does not manipulate, because he lives according to universal laws. He does not become attached to people and does not bind them to himself, because he is filled from the inside. And people are attracted to him, because he radiates warmth, kindness, love. A person who loves himself values his own and other people's time, knows how to refuse, if necessary, without guilt, without offending people. He focuses on his own strengths and notes the virtues of others. A person who loves himself is balanced and harmonious, knows how to protect personal boundaries and honors others with respect. Each of us, at different moments in our lives, moves from a state of selfishness to a state of self-love. And the more often we show love to ourselves, the less often there is a need to act selfishly.

Constructive Communication

How to start a conversation with your husband? Decide on the purpose of the conversation and make a rough plan. Often partners begin to sort things out, slipping into mutual reproaches, remembering all the grievances. Such quarrels will lead nowhere. Think in advance - what do you want from the conversation, what result? Make a plan: "I want to... because...". Stick to it during the dialogue.